About Depression and Suicide

I feel the need to write this blog post because these are the words that have been swirling around in my head and I hope I have found enough clarity to put them down properly because it's such an important issue.

Depression and suicide and any form of mental illness really are such complex things and depression and mental illness have varied and many effects on people. And people deal with these things differently too, some sufferers will seek assistance if they need it and are open about their struggles, whereas other will guard themselves and cover it up, and some that are open about it will mask how they are truly feeling in times of great distress. There are many great avenues for sufferers to go down to get help and these are well advertised but in saying that, they are only great if people use them and if they use them when they are feeling desperate and alone and feeling like they are going to harm themselves, and when people are in these moments they become unable to think about what they're doing and can become severely irrational. They won't think about calling telephone call lines and may not even think about calling a friend. And day's like RUOK day are good in theory and good for getting people talking about depression etc to help end the stigma still associated with depression and mental illness but not good if the person being asked won't say that they're not really ok and they really need help. I might ask Barry at work on RUOK day and he responds that he is ok, but they next day after work Barry takes his own life, what happens then??? As I said, days like this are good for getting people talking about these important issues but are they really helping in the way we really need them to?

What we really need is to help sufferers to know all the important things and find a way to help them remember these things when they are desperate and irrational. Things like:

• They are loved.
• They matter and it will matter to people if they're not here.
• That it's important to call someone, call a friend and if they don't get through the first time to keep calling friends until someone is on the other end and someone can come and be with them.
• Asking for help isn't weak, isn't a bother, isn't a burden.

I don't have to answer as to how we help them to remember these things, I wish I did, I wish I had all the answers as to how to help people with depression and mental illness and people who want to take their own lives, and I wish this as not only a person with compassion and respect and empathy but as someone who loves many people who suffer these things. And I want them to know:

• You are loved
• You matter and it will matter if you're not here.
• Please call me if you need me, at any time, on any day. And if you can't reach me keep trying until you do or call every other person you know until you reach someone.
• Asking me or anyone else for help doesn't make you weak, isn't a bother and isn't a burden. Not to your friends and not to professional people who are paid to help.

I'm scared for the people I love, our government doesn't do enough to support people with mental health, cutting funding is ridiculous when more is so desperately needed, what they hell are they thinking?

And we need to address these issues at schools, children aren't stupid and these issues have an impact on them too, and they're seeing it and experiencing it either in their lives directly or through other kids lives or n the media, we need to equip them not only to be able to deal with it but also to help ending the stigma associated with these issues. Parents need help addressing these issues and I think schools can help them get that foothold. And I think there's no age that should be excluded, my son's school had rugby league players come and talk about bullying yet my son's class wasn't included, why not? Bullying effects all ages, even kindy kids. There are ways of talking about issues that all kids will be able to grasp the basic issue. The world has changed and whether we like it or not adult issues are effecting our kids, they're no longer shielded from major issues like these like many of us were when we were younger. Kids have to deal with a lot these days and we need to stop acting like they don't know what's going on, because they so do, and if we don't give them the facts and they tools to deal with them then we are doing them a great disservice.

If you're reading this and you know how we can change things, DO THEM and if I can help then let me know. I'm just a regular pleb who knows we need to change things but I don't know how, but I know that we need to fight for the people that need it and for the people that we have lost.

About......

I'm not ok, this is not ok. My beautiful friend is no longer here and it hurts more than I can say. Someone said that everyone that loved Charlotte hasn't let her down and they haven't but people have. The people that trod her down, the people that lack sympathy, the people that lack empathy, the people that lack compassion and the people that are cruel, they all let her down, they let everyone down. This is not how people should be, it's not and I revolt against it completely.

I will never let you down my darling Charlotte, never ever and I will raise my children to not let you down either.

Tell the people that you love , that you love them often. If I could tell Charlotte a million times over right now I would.

I love you darling friend, forever and always

Xxxxx

About Fucking Off

So often I feel like telling people to fuck off, so:

Fuck off with your racism.
Fuck off with your sexism.
Fuck off with your prejudice.
Fuck off with your fakeness.
Fuck off with your fucking people around.
Fuck off with your judgementalism.
Fuck off with your arseholeness.
Fuck off with your nastiness.
Fuck off with your unwanted opinions on things.
Fuck off with telling people things that they should/shouldn't like/do.
Fuck off with your bullshit.
Fuck off with your sexual harassment.
Fuck off with making people feel like shit so you feel better about yourself.
Fuck off with your abuse.
Fuck off with treating people like shit.
Fuck off with your selfishness.
Fuck off with your sense of entitlement.


Just. Fuck. Off.

About articles that tell me what I should/shouldn't like/do

Today's rant is proudly brought to you by this complete horse shit of an article: http://www.theage.com.au/entertainment/movies/theres-a-big-shortage-of-movies-you-can-take-your-mother-to-20140116-30vw4.html

What a complete fucking crock and a massive sweeping generalisation of what mothers like and don't like. "Mothers don't want to see exploding cars. They don't want to see orcs, or awkward (and especially orc-ward) sex. Sci-fi? Forget it. Violence? No thanks. Superheroes are super dull, and fantasy is also not really mothers' cup of tea" FUCK OFF, I like movies with these things in it and I'm a mother, sure my mother wouldn't enjoy them, but that is her. Perhaps the author of this article should have said "mothers of a certain age" but even then that's assuming that mum's are all cut from the same cookie cutter, THEY AREN'T YOU STUPID FUCKING IDIOT. I'm sure there are older mums who like these things, there are probably even bikie nanas who enjoy watching hardcore porn, YOU DON'T KNOW SO STOP FUCKING ASSUMING THINGS!!! I like nice movies too, am I not allowed because I like the other movies that I shouldn't because I am a mum? When I get to a certain age will I only like nice movies without all these nasty horrid things in them? Should I not have a tattoo either as a mum because tattoos are for hip young people and now I'm a mum I'm just an old husk of a woman? Clearly I'm not doing this mum thing correctly.

I am so tired of being told that as a mother/wife/woman/person the things that I should/shouldn't like/do, how about you let us as individuals decide these things, considering that you as an article writer don't know everyone on the face of the fucking earth. So until you know everyone on the face of the fucking earth how about you shut the fuck up about these things. I will like what I like and do what I want to do because I am me and I am an individual.

So dear Hollywood, please keep making movies with car explosions, orcs, sex, drugs, sci fi, violence and superheroes, because these are the best kinds of movies, especially if they have hot guys in them like Bradley Cooper and Channing Tatum, thank you. 

Thus ends today's rant.

About stuff

Ok, so I have had some time to think about things and I remembered my goal of ignoring mofos in 2014 and come to the conclusion that this is something that I really need to do, and I will. We can never escape mofos, they're mofos and they're all around us and they always will be, which is sad because it makes life that little bit more shit than it would be, but never mind.

And I was completely mortified that someone would use my name to be an arsehole but this is twitter and I guess it was bound to happen, but people know me, my friends know me and they would know that this is NOT me and NOT something I would ever, ever do, unless of course you are the kind of arsehole that does this kind of thing and in which case I will call you a MOTHERFUCKING ARSEHOLEY DOUCHECANOE WHO CAN GO AND GET COMPLETELY FUCKED. If your aim was to make me look bad, then fuck you, if it was to show that whoever YOU are is an complete mofo, then congrats, you succeeded, well done, your box of shit is in the mail.

I felt really sad and sick but now I just feel sorry for the person, how sad and pathetic their life must be if they feel like they have to take other peoples names or anonymous names and be arsehole to people, they mustn't really have much of a fulfilling life. They're also cowardly, to be (fake) nameless and faceless to say stuff they wouldn't say as themselves is really, really shitty and clearly they know that they are an arsehole and don't want anyone to know, which is so sad and pathetic.

With me what you see is what you get, my business is my business and your business is yours, I don't talk about things unless you ask. If you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you. If you're an arsehole, enjoy talking to yourself because chances are after your first arseholey interaction I have already blocked you and asked all of my friends and followers to block you too, so have fun with that. And don't ever try to attack things that you know nothing about because you know NOTHING despite what you might think. You either need to take less pills or more pills, I can never tell, but it's one of those things.

So I will be back, but I'm going to enjoy some time with my beautiful Sydney family and be back and ready to ignore mofos in 2014 with you all.

Also Ben passed on your lovely messages, thank you for being so lovely and kind. Oh and if you follow the account bec_pobjie, unfollow, block and report immediately, this is not me, just some horrid loser.

xoxoxoxo

About why I have left twitter

If you don't already know I have deactivated my twitter account due to someone creating the account bec_pobjie and then using that account to be horrid and mean to people, people I love and respect and would never do such things to.

I feel sick, sad and angry that some motherfucking arsehole would do this. What they are doing goes against everything that I would do, say and how I would behave, except this person, I would be completely horrid to them if I knew who they were because they would deserve it for being completely abhorrent and disgraceful.

I certainly hope that the account creator is no one I know or have talked to before, I certainly hope it wasn't the person that followed the account for a short time even though they hadn't tweeted for many hours, I hope it was just an accident as they were blocking and reporting this account.

I hate anyone that creates these accounts, it is one of the lowest and cowardliest things a person can do and I cannot explain why anyone would want to do such a thing. If you want to be an arsehole and talk shit about people use your own fucking name you piece of scum, how fucking dare you use mine.

So I'm hoping this fucker will lose interest and get fucked, I will be back I'm sure but for right now I cannot be there and watch this person do what they are doing. Please keep blocking and reporting this account and hopefully eventually they will not bother to start it back up again.

xxxxx

Celebrity Weight Loss Ads

Oh man I am so fucking sick of these. Ads telling me if I drink this concoction that tastes like cat piss mixed with fermented tuna juice I'll look like Beyonce, if I eat this bar that looks like fossilised poo and tastes like cardboard I'll look like Jennifer Anniston, if I take this pill that's big enough to be swallowed by a whale I'll look like Kim Kardashian, STOP IT, JUST FUCKING STOP IT. Because it's absolute bullshit, there's no way if I do any of all of these things that I'll look like any or all of those people. These people are a.) paid millions of dollars to spruik this shit, b.) they have millions of dollars to help them lose weight.  Even if I schlepped my arse to the gym for 6 hours every day and only ate lettuce and became a shell of my former self I'm not going to look like them, not unless I had lots of surgery which I'm not going to do because I'm sure I'd still find things I'm unhappy about and also I'm poor.

They have millions of dollars to pay for nannies, personal trainers, personal chefs and if all else fails surgery to nip and tuck everything in that they're still not quite happy with. This is not fucking inspirational, this is a crock, I'd be far more inspired by someone who has lost lots of weight under their own sheer hard work and determination, whilst working 5 days a week and looking after 4 kids, THAT'S INSPIRATIONAL.

But in saying that, how about just telling us that we are fine the way we are and if we are happy then that's fab, but if we aren't happy then making changes is awesome and if that's what makes us happy then YAY! WHY CAN'T YOU TELL US THIS? Stop telling us that we are fat and ugly and we should want to look like all these celebrities, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH US.

And all these ads are of course targeted at women, there are no ads telling men that if they do this, that and the other that they'll look like hot celeb men, so stop telling this shit to us, we don't want to fucking hear this bullshit anymore.

And you know what, I'm sure there's something on these celebs bodies that they don't like either, but hardly anyone ever tells you that, no one is fucking perfect, no one, and if anyone thinks that they are then I call bullshit on that, BULLSHIT.

Oh and I lost the majority of my weight just by changing my eating whilst looking after a family of 5 which includes 3 small children, SO THERE'S THAT!